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Moose's avatar

Tanya- this line is beautiful.

“His death teaching me the beauty of life that we can see more clearly when we allow ourselves to sit with the discomfort of pain.”

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Tanya Wilkinson's avatar

Thank you so much Mustafa for your kind words - they mean a lot

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Ayesha Calligraphy's avatar

What a difficult topic Grief and Death you have explored with so much acceptance and love. I felt your words and loved them ❤️ Esp how much understanding you have for natural cycle of human life.

"When we live this life understanding that we are mortals, then see there really is no better time than now to prioritise those and that which matters the most. "

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Tanya Wilkinson's avatar

Thank you so much Ayesha for your beautiful words. It is a joy to be connected via this wonderful space 💛

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Heartfelt Boundaries's avatar

Oh! Your writing is so beautiful and you have a way with words. I love how you’ve talked about these two credibly difficult events with so much love and grace and compassion. Thank you truly. I appreciate this and am subscribing 💙

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Tanya Wilkinson's avatar

Thank you SO much for such kind words. As a newbie Substacker it means the world as I find my feet here. It looks like we have lots of beautiful interconnected interests so I have subscribed to you too. With so much gratitude to you 💛

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Sarah Wasey's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story,beautiful, raw and honest. It’s too easy to turn away from death, my first reaction was to scroll away and not read, but I stayed. After birth, death is the only thing we can guarantee and however hard it is there is always light and love too 💕

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Tanya Wilkinson's avatar

Thank you so much for such a heartfelt share Sarah. I can so relate to that urge to scroll away and not read. Honouring you for staying with my gratitude to you for reading my first post. You are so right, alongside the pain there is such beauty and love to be found too 💛

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Sarah Wasey's avatar

You are a role model to us all Tanya, sharing your grief and story in such a way. Sending you love and huge hugs tonight ❤️

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Natalie's avatar

I love this and love your writing. Thank you for sharing. I've dealt with the fear of death and dying since I was a small child. I remember sleepless nights, crying, and running to my parents bedroom for comfort. Over the years, I've had several deaths in the family and among friends that shook me. It can be so hard but it's an important part of life to accept.

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Tanya Wilkinson's avatar

Thank you so much Natalie. Sending love to you with the grief that you hold.

And oh my goodness there is so much that child you had to hold with that fear.

I so wish that our culture was better at speaking about death and grief - so we see it’s a part of life, and can have better community support to move through it together 💛

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Ishani Rege's avatar

Your voice in this space is so powerful because you teach us to think about what we value. Life has meaning because it ends, and how we live it matters. And it’s really easy to forget that when we’re caught up in a world that moves too quickly for you to process anything. Thank you so much 💜

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Tanya Wilkinson's avatar

Oof Ishani thank you so much for sharing your own powerful words. I am FEELING every single one of them. So appreciate you being here at the start of this Substack journey 💛

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Suzanne Hughes's avatar

This is so beautiful Tanya. I have lost a few people very close to me over the last couple of years and struggle to find the words - but I deeply resonate with this. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

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